I don't have an issue with gays, I really couldn't care any less about what 2 or more consenting adults do behind closed doors. Hell, I love lesbians, its just too bad they don't love me back. But this man should not have been made a marter for gay rights activists. This was simply a kid who couldn't handle shit witch brings me to the point of this post.
Bullies are not the problem! Most of my young life I was that weird kid in the class no one wanted to talk to or hang out with and was generally bullied often (big shocker right). It was not the actual bullying that was the problem, it was the feeling of helplessness. Wile taking all of the appropriate avenues like teachers, principals, parents, all that. I could not get the problem to stop. I was always told by my mother and father "don't start the fight but you better finish it" well I'm officially telling them both as of this blog they were fucking wrong.
These bullies become protected by the school system by punishing the "Victim" for any acts of retaliation or self defense and sternly talking to the bullies don't stop them. These kids think they are untouchable because normally no real action is ever taken. I say it become acceptable for a kid to beat another kid for shit talking. Even if he loses he has illustrated that he is going to stand up for himself which is a great quality for any person to have as an adult. Maybe not always physically but that option should not always be overlooked so quickly. And this trait is recognized by bullies. The fact that the other kid has displayed that he is willing to hurt the other kid is enough in many cases, Then in other cases the kid might actually have to win against the bully but at least hes taken the first step to getting people to back the fuck off.
As for kids who commit suicide for any reason what so ever, here is a nifty chart I made all by myself in Google Docs
As for kids who commit suicide for any reason what so ever, here is a nifty chart I made all by myself in Google Docs
The information for this chart came from the National Institute of Mental Health web page and reflects the suicide rates in the USA per 100,000 of children and young adults in 2007. This number Doesn't even break 14 per 100,000 making it a social abnormality. People don't normally resort to this its not a national crisis as the media would have you believe. I am not counting attempted suicide for a very important reason and another one of my points. We have given so much attention to anyone who kills them self that some (not all) people both young and old have used it as a cry for help and it is hard to distinguish how many of these people actually desired death.
Don't misunderstand what I am trying to say. It is absolutely sad when a person resorts to this but this act only take into consideration the feeling and well being of the "victim" in the vast majority of cases an in ALL cases it is extremely short sighted and no one should attempt it.
We should not raise these people up for a selfish act, or turn other kids into criminals when it's generally the school systems lack of effective action and societal negativity towards violence that allows bullying to take place. Instead they should be made to be what they really are, an abnormality that should be shown sorrow for their poor and unintelligent choice.
And all you fuckers who think simply talking and listening is enough to save people and help the dramatically. You are in reality doing nothing to solve the issue at hand. This is just a small gesture that allows you to feel as though you did something, and you know what maybe sometimes it helps the person feel better. But its not gonna stop a bully, its not gonna solve someone financial issues, and its not gonna save someone relationship with their significant other. Action is what will help people and save lives. Help a classmate take down a bully, Buy the poor schmuck lunch every now an again to help him save cash, and help your friends find a decent marriage counselor.
I'm off my soap box for tonight.
Well, as your Mom in some regards I know I was fucking wrong. Parenthood, like any other thing in life, is learning by trial and error. Sometimes you do it right. When you do, it's accidental. My own dad (who was no gem either) told me to start nothing, and finish everything. Back in the 70's it worked--you could actually beat the shit out of a bully and the bully would get suspended for starting it, not you--you were viewed as having acted "in self-defense." There were at at least 3 bullies who wound up seriously injured by me as a kid, including one who needed serious amounts of surgery when I got done with him. I never told you that story, remind me to relay it offline. These kids wound up injured...and suspended. Because each time, I acted in self-defense. By the time you were a kid, that sound advice to "start nothing, but finish everything" no longer applied as well, because the school system would suspend BOTH parties--both the bully and the person being bullied. For the person being bullied, it would have been like being reamed twice; once by a bully, once by the school system. What a fucking lovely situation, perfect for crushing self-esteem.
ReplyDeleteBut by the time you left middle school, one of those bullies never took the bus ever again after I chatted with his father and if I recall correctly, never spoke to you or about you ever again (I will relay the details of that conversation if you like), and your own vice principal was no longer allowed to speak to you without a witness present, thanks to my using the parental version of "start nothing, but finish everything." Trust me, when the last of my children graduated, the entire school system breathed a fuckin' sigh of relief.
So yeah...I was wrong from time to time. But I accidentally got a few things right. :-p